The Holy Manners Process

The Holy Manners process is a valuable way for you and your group to practice and promote healthy relationships for home, church and all of life.  I was introduced to this process by reading and using the insights found in Gil Rendle’s excellent book Behavioral Covenants in Congregations.

Don’t be fooled into thinking that healthy relationships will automatically happen by having people read and sign a Holy Manners statement.  Holy Manners are a gift.  A gift that you and others give to each other in light of the loving example and transforming impact of the gift of love and grace you’ve each received from Jesus your Savior.  Holy Manners and this process are fueled by the gospel.  Such an approach makes the Holy Manners process a valuable way for you and your group to experience the blessings of practicing and promoting healthy relationships  in your group!!

It has been my privilege to lead our congregation through this process and we remain on the intentional journey to strive for peace and healthy relationships together.

Recently I have also had the privilege of leading other groups to practice and promote healthy relationships while creating a Holy Manners statement for their group:  the Michigan District LCMS Staff, the Concordia University Ann Arbor Faculty and the St. Paul Lutheran School Staff in Ann Arbor, MI. In May 2014 it was my privilege to train 50+ Intentional Interim Pastors in this process too.

If you’d like to talk about how to lead this process for your group or inquire about me facilitating this process for your group I’d be pleased to hear from you.

These are sample Holy Manners statements that you can review as you consider the value of this process for you and your group.

If you have purchased Behavioral Covenants in Congregations then you have permission to print and use these worksheets:

Other Holy Manners Resources: